Your mind is not the smartest part of you. When you
have a Vivation session, you need to get your mind out of the way
(it has earned a short vacation!) and let your body be in charge
of the session. You can come to your session with a specific goal
in mind. But then you and your Vivation Professional need to understand
how to keep your body in control of your session.
Regardless of your ultimate goal, your first goal
is to develop enough skill with Vivation to give yourself excellent
sessions. The role of the Vive Pro is analogous to that of a golf
pro. The golf pro teaches beginning golfers the basics and helps
advanced golfers improve their technique. The Vive Pro teaches beginning
Vivers how to focus on their feelings for extended periods of time
and how to receive maximum benefit from each feeling. In golf the
first goal is to develop an effective swing. In Vivation the first
goal is to develop "body leadership."
Body leadership means allowing your body to present
you with surprising feelings, allowing the feelings to take their
own course through your completely relaxed body. Body leadership
occurs when you pay close attention to the details within your feelings,
without trying to control them in any way. You concentrate your
full attention on your feeling sense, and just let your mind go.
When you surrender to the leadership of your own body, your feelings
take you on a healing adventure within yourself.
Vivation is more efficient than mental methods precisely
because your body controls the session. Results in life are created
at least as much by the unconscious mind as by conscious intention.
Your conscious mind does not know what your unconscious mind contains,
but the feelings in your body always provide direct access to your
subconscious. That's why it is so important to give your body full
control over the session. The importance of body leadership can
be illustrated by an example. Suppose a salesman signs up for Vivation
sessions, with the goal of increasing his income. He may have already
decided that what he needs is better "closing techniques," and he
expects Vivation to make him more comfortable using these techniques.
He might not realize that something emotional in his unconscious
mind is inhibiting his sales a lot more than anything about technique.
If our salesman tries to steer his session with his
mind, he'll create mental pictures and thoughts related to closing
sales. Vivation is a fool-proof process and he will get some integration
this way. His sales might even improve. But as he gains more skill
with Vivation and surrenders to his body's leadership, he will integrate
core emotions. Then his sales will really take off!
During a Vivation session properly led by his body,
he might start feeling irritable. Exploring the subtle details within
the irritable feeling, he discovers memories of his father. As he
allows the feeling to follow its course, he feels a profound change.
New feelings of compassion for his father suddenly appear, and he
relaxes deeply. Having integrated these feelings, he finds himself
being more patient with customers. He no longer feels nervous when
they're trying to make up their minds. He naturally says the right
things to close each sale, because he's more sensitive to the individuality
of each customer. Vivation has increased his income much more than
any closing techniques could!
The integration in his session has permanently changed
his results with customers. The problem turned out not to be with
closing techniques, as he had suspected. The real problem was with
impatience, anxiety and irritability, which he had suppressed out
of his conscious awareness for many years. If he had directed the
session with his mind, he never even would have found out what was
really causing his problem. Letting his body direct the session,
he not only found out what was causing his problem, he permanently
healed it.
It works the same way with every kind of problem
and every kind of goal. Vivation works out the core conflicts that
limit your success. A partial list of specific areas that people
have successfully addressed with Vivation includes: money, sex,
relationships, creativity, health, chronic pain, phobias, post-traumatic
stress disorders, addictions, child abuse, eating disorders, grief,
death, and immortality.
Developing body leadership is the same as developing
skill with The Five Elements of Vivation. As your Vivation Professional
continues giving you exercises and suggestions for improving your
skill with The Five Elements, your sessions will develop more body
leadership.
To understand body leadership you must grasp two
essential points: 1. Any problem you are trying to solve is perpetuated
by habitual avoidance of an emotion. Integrating that emotion eliminates
the problem at its source. 2. You already have direct access to
the emotion you need to integrate. That feeling is in your body
all the time. In fact it probably stands out and demands your attention
many times every day. All you need to do is feel it in detail and
surrender to it. The skills you learn from your Vivation Professional
make this whole process easy and gentle.
People sometimes ask me, "How can I get my body to
bring up the feelings I want to work on?" The answer is, You don't
have to! Your body already knows everything you need and desire.
It knows which subconscious factors are related to your needs and
desires better than your conscious mind does. Your body already
makes feelings stand out whenever you are not comfortable with them.
All you need to do is pay attention to the feeling that is standing
out most, and let your body take it from there.
The Vivation session can be called a feeling-level
dream. Just as you do not need to do anything to make sure you have
"the right dream" at night, you also do not need to do anything
to make sure "the right feelings" come up during a Vivation session.
The result produced by Vivation is called "integration." I'll explain
integration with an analogy. Someone asked a great yogi, "What then,
can we eat?" His reply, "The question is not what can you eat, but
what can you digest!" Integration means digesting your life experiences.
Anytime you experience upset, it's because you haven't digested
some experience.
The experience will continue to upset you until you
finally do digest it. The reason you haven't digested it before
now is because you've developed a habit of suppressing the feeling
whenever it comes up, putting it off for another day.
In Vivation your body gently presents the feeling
you most need to digest. Then you relax and surrender, allowing
your body to digest the experience. When you integrate an experience,
you receive completely what's useful in it, and you completely let
go of struggle and waste.
Your Vivation Professional helps you become expert
at integrating. In the first few sessions, you learn to integrate
the feelings your body produces when you're resting comfortably.
You discover that your body generates continuous waves of emotional
energy, even when you're just resting. After a few sessions, you'll
know you're good at Viving, ready to take it on the road!
With practice you can learn to Vive while simultaneously
engaging in any other activity. As you progress through a series
of sessions with your Vivation Professional, he or she might lead
you through some "Vivation-in-Action Field Trips". These are
Vivation sessions in which you Vive while doing something else,
so you can integrate the feelings produced by the activity. There
are infinite possibilities for Vivation-in-Action Field Trips. Here
are a few: Viving in warm or cold water, Viving in church, Viving
on a roller coaster, Viving while striking up conversations at a
singles bar.
To illustrate an extremely important point about
body leadership, we'll take the example of going to some high, but
safe, place to Vive and integrate your fear of heights. It's one
thing to go to a high place and Vive into the feelings activated
there. It's something completely different to sit on the ground
pretending you're in a high place, trying to Vive into the feelings
you'd expect would come up. The difference is that the feelings
you get in the actual situation are not the feelings you would expect.
The feelings in the actual situation will surprise you. Feelings
you are trying to bring up consciously cannot surprise you. If your
body is not surprising you with the feelings that are coming up,
then you need more body leadership.
Besides advanced Vivation techniques, you can also
do certain things, before and after the Vivation session, that will
help you apply Vivation to your specific objectives. Here are some
tips:
Every day take some kind of direct action, even if
it is small, to move toward your goal. For example, identify a behavior
that contributes to the problem and make a program of doing the
opposite. For your Vivation process, taking direct action is important
mainly because of the emotions stimulated by the action.
Good results come from using affirmations before (but
not during) the Vivation session. The affirmations activate feelings
related to your goal. But let go of the affirmations during the
session, and give all your attention to your feeling sense. Your
body knows important feelings that your mind cannot reach. During
the Vivation session, any mental activity, including affirmations
and talking, interfere in letting your body lead the session.
If you are trying to eliminate some compulsion or
addiction, Vivation works extremely well in conjunction with 12-Step
Programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous. When working on a specific
goal or problem, increase your daily Vivation and increase the frequency
of your assisted sessions.
Relax. You don't need to try hard at Vivation. Your
body will lead your session and produce excellent results for you.
Now you can experience that your wisest teacher, your greatest healer,
is you.