Vivation is an extremely versatile technique. People
do it for a vast array of different reasons, ranging from "because
it's fun" to "because it helps my chronic pain." I do Vivation,
typically, for about an hour a day and I have done so for more than
twenty years - it's the great passion of my life. Other people probably
like other things about it, but I want to express what I, personally,
like about Vivation.
I like Vivation because it is physically pleasurable.
In Vivation, we produce the result, integration, by enjoying the
present moment as much as we can, and then finding a way to enjoy
even what seems to limit our enjoyment. Every aspect of Vivation
is pleasurable. Certainly every integration is pleasurable, as we
feel our stress and negativity drain away. The honesty with which
we feel our feelings is pleasurable. Every Vivation session is a
fun and surprising adventure inside ourselves. The Circular Breathing
that we do in Vivation circulates the energy in our body, which
is pleasurable. A complete Vivation session feels very much like
we just received a full-body massage.
The pleasure of Vivation is more important than you
perhaps realize. Don't get me wrong, I like pleasure for its own
sake anyway. But the pleasure of Vivation is more important than
the pleasure we receive from eating or from sex. Vivation sessions
make a permanent improvement in our quality of life. Integration
is permanent. The feelings that we integrate stay integrated and
don't come back anymore. So Vivation is both extremely pleasurable
and extremely good for us. But imagine if Vivation were good for
us, but not much fun to do - then it would be like a lot of other
things.
The problem with doing unpleasant things for the purpose
of personal growth is that some part of the mind is bound to ask
the question, "Why am I doing this unpleasant thing instead of watching
television, or partying, or doing any other more pleasant thing?"
And the necessary answer is "Because I have to do this in order
to be a better person." This Q&A reinforces shame, which is one
of the biggest problems that people have anyway. In fact, one of
the best things about Vivation is that it makes it easy and enjoyable
to integrate shame. When we're doing Vivation, if the mind asks,
"Why am I doing this?" we answer "Because it feels good!" Excellent
reason. That's exactly what we want more of in life, the opportunity
to get excellent results by doing something we enjoy.
I like Vivation because it is extremely efficient.
In an hour of doing Vivation we can produce more integration than
we can by doing weeks of anything else. We engage in concentrated
enjoyment of the feelings in our body for an hour, and we have many
integrations, which leave us feeling at peace permanently with our
world. Vivation is very direct, focusing on the exact feeling which
most limits our enjoyment and feeling that in detail.
The process is led by the body, which makes it far
more efficient that any process led by the mind. The conscious mind
makes a vigorous, on-going effort to keep unconsciously held feelings
suppressed. The body does nothing of the sort. The body is always
connected to the unconscious mind through feelings and emotions.
The efficiency of Vivation makes it far more enjoyable to do. If
we let some fear come up and we integrate it within a couple of
minutes (Vivation is often even more efficient than that), it's
a pleasing adventure within ourselves. But if we had to feel that
fear for hours or days before we had integration, it would be extremely
uncomfortable.
The whole point of first learning The Three Points
to Remember and then The Five Elements is to make the session as
efficient as possible. Even from the very first session, which normally
contains the experiential exercises for The Three Points to Remember,
Vivation is extremely efficient. Then with each subsequent lesson,
generally a lesson for each one of the Five Elements plus a few,
the sessions become more and more efficient.
I like Vivation because it is an autonomous skill.
I wish to explain what I mean by the words "autonomous" and "skill"
Vivation is a skill because we produce our own results and because,
with learning and experience, we get better and better at producing
them. In this way it's like other skills, like the skill of speaking
in public or the skill of painting pictures. Vivation is an autonomous
skill, because we learn to do it for ourselves. At the start of
the first Vivation lesson, the new client is totally dependent upon
her Vivation Professional, because the Vive Pro knows everything
about Vivation and the new client knows nothing about it. But with
each lesson she develops her skill and her autonomy.
Most Vivation Professionals tell most of their clients
to start trying self-Vivation right after their first session. At
first this is difficult; we need the coaching of our Vive Pro to
stay in the process. But with further lessons and further sessions
we become increasingly autonomous, until finally we are able to
produce the results of Vivation reliably for ourselves without anyone
else being present.
This point is essential for my enjoyment of teaching
Vivation. I would much rather teach someone how to produce results
for herself than leave her with the sense that her results depend
on me. I like to see my clients develop their skills further and
further with every lesson. Isn't this the very essence of personal
growth?
I like Vivation because it is performance-enhancing.
Vivation enables us to do everything better. With any goal, we can
focus either on how far we are from it or how close we are to it.
It is always much easier to accomplish anything when we are focused
on how near we are to attaining it. Vivation makes the shift to
seeing the nearness of our goals automatically, at the level of
feelings. Without Vivation we inevitably waste a lot of energy on
struggling to keep our emotions suppressed. Suppressed emotions
put us at war against ourselves. Vivation eliminates the problem.
Every integration makes us clearer about what is truly important
to us. In this way, Vivation also makes us much better at choosing
meaningful goals for ourselves. Because of integration we have a
deep new well of energy to draw on to help us do the things that
really matter. Vivation also increases our motivation because when
we do achieve something, Vivation increases our feelings of satisfaction
with a job! well done.
Vivation is also performance-enhancing for another
reason-staying focused on our feelings increases our access to our
own natural intuition. The feeling nature of our body is like a
big antenna that picks up information from everyone and everything
in our environment. Practicing Vivation greatly increases our ability
to know what other people are thinking and feeling. Vivation makes
it possible for us to "think with our entire body". In situations
that used to seem particularly difficult, Vivation enables us to
perceive the right course of action intuitively.
Vivation also enhances performance by making us more
enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is the best source of motivation. The most
successful people are the people who are the most enthusiastic.
By eliminating internal emotional conflicts, Vivation lets our life-force
energy flow freely. Vivation keeps our attention focused on the
present moment, where we can feel and enjoy this increased energy
flow. This enhanced enjoyment of our own aliveness, combined with
the way Vivation makes us more aware of our nearness to our important
goals, equals enthusiasm.
Vivation will make you better at everything you do
at the same time that it makes you feel a whole lot happier.
I like Vivation because it is completely portable.
We learn Vivation at first in dedicated sessions but with a little
practice we can do it at the same time we are engaging in any other
activity. Viving while engaging simultaneously in another activity
is called Vivation in Action. After your Vivation Professional has
given you the lessons for the Five Elements, there will come a fascinating
lesson in Vivation in Action. Your Vivation Professional might choose
an activity that you will find activating anyway, and coach you
through a session as you engage in that activity. Or your Vive Pro
might just have you try Vivation while you're walking around the
block.
With practice you'll get to where you Vive naturally
in every situation you find yourself in. When you do Vivation around
people who have no training in it, no one will detect that you are
doing anything unusual (it's an internal process). You will simply
seem like you're a little more alert and positive than most other
people. If you Vive in business meetings, you'll find that your
normal intelligence is enhanced by your feeling awareness. You'll
find that you notice when some idea worries you, but you won't let
it get you down.
I like Vivation because it enables us to improve any
experience at will. Vivation increases our enjoyment of both pleasant
and unpleasant experiences. A huge part of any unpleasant experience
is our own negativity about it. We wish that we were having some
other experience instead. Everything would be so much better if
only it were different. This type of negativity is called "make-wrong"
in the vernacular of Vivation. Integration, the result of Vivation,
is the exact opposite. It means that we extend our sense of the
miracle of being alive to include the particulars of the experience
we're having now. Just a few minutes of doing that can change a
bad day into a great day!
But naturally this same sense of well-cultivated gratitude
can make any pleasant experience even more enjoyable. Vivation is
the fine art of intentionally increasing our enjoyment. Feeling
the miracle of our aliveness is certain to make us better lovers.
If we savor the taste of every bite of food, we'll enjoy it more
and get all the benefits of Vivation. Vivation makes it much easier
for us to listen to music without getting distracted by our thoughts.
I like Vivation because it increases our freedom as
well as everyone else's. Vivation greatly reduces the ability of
other people to control us. Whenever someone wants to control us
they do it by trying to activate some feeling in us that we don't
like. But when we know Vivation, we can simply integrate that feeling
and laugh off their useless attempt to control us! We become genuinely
self-motivated. We live freer.
And when we do Vivation it also increases the freedom
of the other people in our life. It's human nature that when we
have an experience we don't like we blame somebody else for it.
This blaming process robs us of our power. If someone else is responsible
for my results, then I can't just produce better results myself—I
have to change the other person first. From the other person's point
of view, they feel that we are restricting their freedom. They can't
just go through life being themselves, they have to try and behave
in the way that we want them to.
Vivation, in contrast, shows us that we are responsible
for our own happiness. We can do something simple and straightforward
(i.e., Vivation) to increase our happiness anytime we want. We are
free to do what we want and to integrate the feelings that get activated
for us. We are free from compulsion and we are free from guilt.
Our integrations also create freedom for all the other people around
us, because our integrations give us the freedom to love these people
as they are. We no longer have the perceived need to control them.
I like Vivation because it increases our compassion
for ourselves and others. Vivation directly raises our self-esteem,
because it allows us to love and appreciate ourselves exactly as
we are. What we do in a Vivation session is generate the energy
of unconditional love and pour it into whichever part of ourselves
needs it the most at the moment. Vivation is the most effective
way of integrating shame and guilt, which rob us of self-esteem,
because it works at the feeling level. Trying to eliminate shame
and guilt mentally is very difficult because the message of the
shame and guilt is that we don't deserve something good like a reduction
in our shame and guilt. But in a Vivation session shame and guilt
resolve at the feeling level in exactly the same way as frustration,
fear, physical pain, or anything else. People who do Vive make the
positive changes in their lives that go with having higher self-esteem.
The more we practice Vivation the more compassion
we have for everyone else, too. Feeling our own feelings in detail
naturally makes us more aware of what other people experience when
they have feelings. If we struggle, as most people do, to not let
ourselves get activated, then when we see an activated person we
partly blame them and think "why can't she keep control?" When we
do Vivation sessions we find out that we have every emotion that
there is, just beneath the surface. In Vivation this is a great
thing, because we always have the opportunity to integrate a feeling
just as soon as we become aware of it. We cannot possibly judge
someone negatively for having anger, for example, when we have had
a big integration of anger ourselves! Vivation heals our negativity,
and part of how it does this is by making us familiar and comfortable
with our negativity. We get the deep experience that other people's
negativity is just the same thing as our own, and that deep experience
is! called "compassion".
I like Vivation because it is a spiritual experience
without any dogma. The essence of spirituality is conscious contact
with our own spirit. Vivation provides this experience reliably
to anyone, even atheists. The world desperately needs more genuine
spirituality, but it does not need more dogma. Vivation goes well
with every religion in the world. There is no need to change your
religious beliefs in order to do Vivation. Vivation makes Catholics
better Catholics, Hindus better Hindus and atheists better atheists.
Every religion has a personal growth aspect to it. Reducing our
negativity, increasing our compassion, and feeling our own spirit,
fits nicely with the personal growth program of every religion.
Vivation is pure experience. You don't have to change
any of your beliefs to do Vivation. Feeling our feelings honestly
is not a sin in anybody's book. Feeling gratitude for the miracle
of our existence enhances all spiritual programs. The words "spiritual"
and "inspiration" come from the Latin word for breath. The easy,
natural, healthful way we breathe in Vivation brings out the best
in everyone.
I like Vivation because it is simple. Vivation is
simple enough to teach to little children, especially the modern
Vivation process which starts people off with the Three Points to
Remember. Each one of the Three Points to Remember automatically
maintains all Five Elements. For example, if you inhale through
the strongest feeling (the Second Point to Remember), you will relax,
feel the details within the strongest feeling, be receptive to it,
and know that your willingness is all you need. I can teach anyone
to Vive in about an hour. Imagine, a skill that you will use for
the rest of your life, learned in about an hour!
The Three Points to Remember are like simple games
you play with your own energy, so it's no trouble to teach it to
children. The Three Points to Remember also make it easy and natural
to stay in our Vivation session even when we're simultaneously engaging
in another activity.
I like Vivation because it is not mental. Vivation
is a physical process, in the sense that we focus continuously on
the feelings in the body and not on the thoughts in the mind. If
you are like most people, your mind likes to think it's the smartest
part of you. When you do Vivation, you find out that your body is
far wiser than your mind. After all, your body is so wise that you
can eat a pizza and your body will change it into your fingernails,
your liver, your brain, etc. Your mind can't do that. When it comes
to resolving emotions, your body continuously seeks integration
because every emotion is composed of your life force energy, which
is inherently pleasurable. Your mind, in contrast, continuously
seeks suppression, because it has the idea that what it doesn't
think about consciously can't hurt it. A Vivation session is completely
led by the client's body, and this is an important reason why it
is so effective.
People are already sufficiently mental. Many people
even think that they are their conscious mind, leaving most of themselves
out of the equation. What people need is to be more in contact with
their honest feelings. This automatically makes people more intuitive,
more connected to their own values, and more focused on their natural
purpose in life.
I like Vivation because it increases our creativity.
I wrote my second book, Your Fondest Dream - How to Master the Power
of Creativity, because I observed in hundreds of clients that their
creativity increased as a result of doing Vivation. Vivation increases
our creativity in at least two important ways:
First, Vivation reduces the barrier between the conscious
mind and the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind is infinitely
creative - creative enough to generate all of our dreams at night.
The conscious mind keeps material from arising from the unconscious
because of discomfort with the emotional content of the suppressed
material. Vivation makes it comfortable and enjoyable to explore
this material. So more creative ideas will naturally arise from
the unconscious.
Second, every integration produces a creative breakthrough.
Whenever something seems to be a problem, it's because of the way
we are looking at it. When we have the breakthrough moment in which
we find the solution, we shift context so that we focus on a new
use of what we already have. This is exactly the shift that occurs
at the moment of integration. When we try to work out a problem
mentally, it's often difficult because we are already invested in
the old context. Working at the feeling level, simply by feeling
the most prominent feeling in detail and finding a positive way
to relate to it, creative breakthrough is easy.
The nature of creativity is that it never stays the
same. No two Vivation sessions are ever alike because integration
is permanent. Once we find a way to enjoy a feeling, we never go
back to being unable to enjoy it. So during a Vivation session,
all of those subtle feelings that come up and integrate are integrated
permanently! The feelings that came up in the first session will
not come up in the second session because they are not there anymore.
We make steady progress as we keep Viving, going on ever more fascinating
adventures within.